"When I called Michael, I
had already been trying to save my marriage.
My husband had come to me 6 months prior and
told me that he wanted a divorce. Devastated,
and in disbelief, after many hours of talking
I convinced him to stay and work on it with
me. I promised him that he could get that
feeling of being in love with me back if he
was willing to work with me.
"We
decided to take some dance classes together.
We did that for about a month but it didn't
seem to be helping. That's when I caught
him lying to me about where he was because he
had taken a girl from work out to dinner.
"I was going to move out to Wyoming then, but
he promised to go to counseling with me and so
we did. It did help for a while, but it soon
became apparent that things were only getting
worse and he continued to tell me that he
still didn't love me.
"I
was a complete mess, feeling terrible about
myself and my situation, and I was very afraid
for my 4 children that we would end up like so
many other marriages as being another
statistic of failure. My youngest, my little
girl was only a year old at the time and had
been brain injured shortly after birth
affecting all of her motor skills. She is
almost three now and still doesn't roll over,
or crawl and is fed via G-tube. I was still
going through the mourning process of loosing
her, at least the idea of what a parent
imagines for their child, when he told me he
wanted a divorce.
"I
was already emotionally drained and him
wanting a divorce seemed to take me over the
edge. I needed a miracle.
"I
didn’t really know if Michael could help me or
not, but his consultation was free, so I
thought, what do I have to lose?
"Michael quickly put me at ease, and what he
had to say amazed me. I felt his advice
should be common sense to everyone, but I'd
never heard things put so clearly.
"Right away Michael helped me find a lot more
compassion for myself and my husband.
And things started to improve... But, it
soon became apparent that my husband was
committed to going his own way, and
experiencing some major life changes.
"Michael helped me access courage and peace in
dealing with the situation, and I ended up
moving out to Wyoming to stay with my family.
It was only supposed to be a month vacation
but I knew it would likely end up being more
then that. There, I had love and support, and
my husband and I would have some much needed
space to think things through. Secretly I had
hoped my husband would miss my kids and me,
and ask for us to come back but he didn't even
call. A week after we arrived in Wyoming he
told me over the phone that he was sure he
didn't want to be with me anymore and that he
wanted a divorce. But some how I still didn't
believe him. We had always had a good
marriage until the last couple years and I'd
always felt lucky to be with him for the most
part.....and I just still couldn't believe
that it would really be over. I could
understand the going through a midlife crisis,
but what I had a hard time understanding was
him being ok with his children growing up with
out him.
"A
few months later he flew out to see the kids
for a week. During this time I left and
flew back to where we were living to see
friends. I had hoped that a week alone with
his children would again, wake him up and
remind him of what he was losing. On my
return he told me that he had missed me and
acted like he wanted to get back together. He
spoke of finding a job in Wyoming and how he
would have to get used to living in a smaller
town. My mother even thought he was sincere.
"But
after leaving Wyoming, again, over the phone
he said that he didn't know what he wanted and
since he didn't know we needed to move forward
with the divorce. Devastated again, after he
had given me some hope of getting back
together, I realized at this time that it
really was over and that I really did need to
move on. I cried for an entire day. But once
I stopped crying I was comforted because
in working with Michael I knew that I had done
everything that I could do.
"Michael had helped me to focus on being
loving and non judging instead of focusing on
trying to control my husband. He helped me to
love and honor myself and my husband, and be
committed to us both being happy--instead of
trying to stay married at all costs. He also
helped me to trust that things would work out
for the best.
"So,
maybe I should have expected what was to
happen next?
My Completely Unexpected Miracle!!!
"Unbeknownst to me, I was about to meet my
future husband--just one week later--a man,
who loves me with a love I've never
experienced before!
"If
you’ve ever seen the movie, Hope Floats, it
was kind of like that. I went to a meeting to
plan our 20 year class reunion, and a man recognized me
as the girl he had a crush on in 3rd
grade.
"He knew who I was the moment I walked in!
"He
would later tell me that he wrote love notes
to me way back then, but had never had the
guts to give them to me. Then in 7th
grade he bought me a necklace and never had
the guts to give it to me. Then I moved away
in 8th grade, and that’s the last
we’d seen of each other… until I walked into
the meeting that night.
"A
few weeks later, we got to talking, started
dating, and we've been together ever since.
"I’d
only been dating him for a week, and was
driving home one night, I felt a deep warmth
in my chest that lasted for 4 days straight
and it didn’t go away. Later he told me that
he felt the same feeling the first time I
walked into the meeting that first night.
"One
month later, I was wearing an engagement
ring. I was freaked out that I wasn’t
freaked out. But it just felt natural and
right from the very beginning. I felt such a
peace with him that I'd never experienced
before.
"When we met I had worried about what he would
think because I had 4 children and one with
cerebral palsy and was sure that it would
scare him away....but it didn't even phase
him. He didn't care. No one has ever loved
me like this man, and I’ve never felt so
incredible or at peace.
"My
children immediately loved him too. We had
only been dating for two weeks when my 7 year
old said to me, "Mom, you know..... you are
divorced and Tim is divorced so you know you
guys can just get married." I laughed and
said, 'Oh ya, do you think we should get
married.'" And he said, " Ya, I do mom."
Well, we took his advice and we just got
married August 7th, 2010!
"I
have never felt such an intense love as I do
from Tim. I have never felt this before. I
knew my first husband loved me, but I feel it
was more of a conditional kind of love. I
don’t feel that from Tim.
"The
thing about working with Michael. He
helps people get beyond their selfishness and
their pride, and helps them access a deep
understanding and compassion.
"He
helped me stand courageously for my marriage,
and honor my husband and myself at the same
time.
"Then, when it was over, I was able to walk way
with PEACE OF MIND, knowing I'd done
everything that I could. Instead of
being stuck in guilt, depression and fear, I was able to move
on--not looking back.
"The
pain isn’t any less painful. It still hurts,
and it still makes me sad at times, especially
for my children. Because every child deserves
to be with both parents. But what's so
beautiful is that my children now get to see
their mother being loved, honored and
cherished. They get to see their mother happy
and in love. They get to see how a women
should be treated and they know they are safe
and deeply loved.
"My
now 8 year old said to me not long ago, "Mom,
you are always smiling and happy." That made
me smile because all they saw for about two
years was a sad mom who was always crying.
But now that they see that I am happy, they
are happy too."
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